Love You Some You!

Losing weight AND keeping it off just isn't a physical thing it is mostly a mind frame change.  It begins with you dealing with ALL the issues you have suppressed and working through them for the betterment of you!

From a woman's stand point we are nurture's by nature, we WANT and NEED to take care of others and put ourselves on the back burner.  The reality to this is you CAN NOT DO THAT!  It's like the saying goes,"If Momma ain't happy NOBODY'S happy" So, why would you want unhappiness for yourself and those around you that you care for and love?  You HAVE to love, respect and appreciate who you are BEFORE anyone else will!  You CAN NOT give positive love and energy when your all messed up on the inside.

For men. It is your job to naturally protect and provide for your family.  If you aren't feeling like the MAN you feel you should be and WANT to be you can't FULLY provide and protect your family.  You have to love you and FEEL and KNOW you ARE a GOOD MAN who loves himself enough to want the BEST for himself and for those you love,protect and provide for.  By providing I am not only speaking financially I'm speaking emotionally. As a man your manhood is based on ego and feeling needed,wanted, appreciated and that you are "handling your business"  Having six brothers, an ex-husband and ex boyfriends I KNOW when a man doesn't feel NEEDED and APPRECIATED he will check out quicker than the self check out line at the grocery store with one item! Women if and when you crush a man's ego you have truly done some serious damage! He may not be drama filled like we are, he will act out in other ways be it eating, abuse, multiple empty sexual relationship, etc. So, watch your words for they do cut like knives!

With that being said, keep in mind that we can not give to others something that we DO NOT have!  We can wear a mask all day, everyday but at some point the mask HAS to come off.  Instead of dealing with our problems with food and masking the feelings we are having, FEEL THEM. TALK ABOUT THEM. DEAL WITH THEM. and RELEASE THEM.  When we continuously try to bury those feelings we begin to eat ourselves alive from the inside out. What do I mean? I'm saying this, we bury these issues deep within our subconscious and say we are O.K. and keep moving all the while when those issues are causing us health issues internally; high blood pressure,depression,anxiety,sexual over/under drive or impotency,diabetics etc. When something in life ignites the memory of those buried emotions we either,eat,act out physically through, drugs,sex, fighting or social withdraw just to cope.  Then, we have to attempt to bury what we just did to cope with the new emotion that came up. So we keep stocking piling these emotions til we are obese with all kinds of health issues. We are sleeping around with chances of contracting STD's. We have anger issues. We withdraw from friends and family. We need anti-depressants and anxiety pills just to keep us able to function in everyday life. Funny thing is, if we had just dealt with the issue when it happened we wouldn't have to go through all this mess.  All you had to do was LOVE you enough to say, " NO, this hurts and is unacceptable. I am worth more than this. I value me and love me, so I'm going to deal with this and remove this negative energy."

I know its easier said than done. Believe you me I KNOW! I wore my mask for a good 30yrs!  Once you take the mask off and deal with these issues your having,be it a death of a loved one, sexual abuse, rape, unhealthy relationships, poor self-esteem or what have you and heal yourself from the inside it will begin to show on the outside.  I ALWAYS tell people I have been healing me on the inside for the past five years now and it was only natural for me to make my outside look and feel like my inside does. Which is happy,loving and positive and growing a more loving view of myself.

Love on you from time to time. It's O.K. you're Worth it and Deserve it! Find or go back to the things that make/made you happy, that you ENJOYED doing.  Even when it comes to working out, IT'S ABOUT YOU! You HAVE to find a fitness activity that YOU enjoy! You are more likely to stick with it and make it routine if you enjoy it.  There are so many things you can do; yard work(planting flowers, cutting grass), cleaning house, dancing, running/jogging, walking or simply playing with your kids, family and friends outside.
JUST MOVE!  Stop wallowing in your pain and get off the couch and MAKE A LIFESTYLE CHANGE! By moving you release those endorphins which NATURALLY put you in a better mood and make you feel better about you and put a SMILE on your face and all you did was...LOVE YOU SOME YOU!